|Reading these suicide pages you will find people seeking help and people offering their help. Some witness about suicide from real life experience, others who play along with me would pretend it's a children's game. Some make sick and cruel jokes about it, and angry people blame me for even mentioning the subject. You might also want to read my favourite answers. If you want your answer to be included here, fill in the form.|
What is the best way to kill yourself when you're under 13?
Quelle est la meilleure forme de suicide pour les moins de 13 ans?
|07 Jul 2005||Helping a friend with depression||Helping a friend with depression
This page is a list of dos and don'ts that I found out along the way. This is not a rigid, fixed list, but it is a list of things that I found worked or didn't work for me.
1. Take everything the person says seriously. If you don't or act like you don't, then they might feel they have to prove to you they are seriouos by acting on their thoughts.
2. Do give your friend as much support as possible. I found it helped immensly just being with someone, and knowing if I needed to I could talk. You don't necesarily have to be able to understand everything your friend tells you, I very much doubt my friends understood the reasons why I cut myself, I didn't so how could they? I found my friends didn't necesarily have to be on the other end of the phone all the time, I found it helped just knowing that I could email them my thoughts, and they would be open to recieving them
3. Do email or phone now and then to see if someone is ok. I found that it really made me feel better if I felt someone was caring, and thinking about me.
4. Do learn about depression so you can understand what is being said. Know the symptons of depression and the signs that suicide is being contemplated. Check out the 'Facts' pages for some basic information on this.
5. Reassure them that suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem
6. Show concern
7. Ask the person if they have ever thought of suicide. This can help the person feel like you are taking them seriously. If they say yes, then ask if they have planned it, decided on when they will do it, and have the means to carry it out. This will help you understand the immediacy of the problem. If you think that they might do it soon then don't leave them alone.
8. Do be supportive when they go to their first psychologist appointment etc. Getting help can be very daunting, and a caring friend can help tremendously and help minimalize risks of the person backing out of treatment.
9. If the person is in the process of suicide and has taken drugs. Get infromation as to what they are taking. Call 999 and keep talking to the peson until the ambulance arrives.
10. Listen. It usually helps to simply talk the feelings out. If someone is actively suicidal, then let them talk. Talking for a long time can also make someone tired,a nd so take the edge off the feelings.
11. Most importantly. Give time and care for for yourself. Don't get so wrapped up in caring for your friend that you don't look after yourself. You need to have a balance between caring for yourself and caring for your mate.
1. Dont dumb things down, try and solve the problems or argue over why the person is considering suicide. It is not the extremity of the problems that makes someone feel that they cant cope, it is whether or not they have enough coping facilities to deal with the situation.
2. Dont make them feel that they have to prove how they feel by acting on their thoughts of self-harm/depression.
3. Try not to get impatient if your friend is repetetive, I found a lot of feelings came and then went and then would come again in a sort of cycle. Just keep trying to be as supportive as possible.
4. Dont judge
5. Dont give up on them! I'm not going to say that this will be easy for either you or your friend - because it won't be - but there is an end and it will be worth it. I have no idea where I'd be without my friends who stuck by me, I know that I'd be either dead or way off the rails and heading for the gutter.
|07 Jul 2005||matt||i have just had a glimpse in the mirror to discover i am a double minded twit. i also am narcisitic.|
|07 Jul 2005||dont ask||Hookt on fonix werkd fer me.|
|07 Jul 2005||CJ||It is no use. I cannot go on.
Everywhere I turn I am sinking deeper into deppression.
I dont even feel like using my super powers anymore. What kind of super hero am I? I dont even want to save the world anymore.
|07 Jul 2005||alex mc||try bleach its slow pain full just wat u want|
|07 Jul 2005||Dave||I'm not doing so well. I found out not too long ago that my boyfriend was alive, only to find that every person I called trying to reach him would not tell me if he was okay. He was transferred to intensive care, and I don't know why, or even if he is still alive. I feel sick.
I don't know what I am going to do. I love Ben so very much, and I have lost him too many times already, this time for forever, it seems. I feel awful. Whatever you do, please don't take your life. I know how much pain it causes, believe me. For those left behind, it hurts worse than anything else life can offer. I am going to go for a bike ride to try to make sense of my feelings, and try to work off some negative energy. You should go for a walk, too. It helps, I know. Take care of yourself, see you later. Hugs, Dave
|07 Jul 2005||ugly old me||THE MOST UNPOPULAR GIRL
i grew up being the most unpopular girl in school village and family. The social scene at school was also controlled by the same
social hierarchy. The popular group was composed of kids from the rich and powerful families who were good looking and so on. I started school with several disadvantages. First of all, I was ugly.
I was skinny,
I was just an all around unattractive little girl.
Anyway, from my various limitations, I was not accepted into the popular group. There is one memory I particularly have of when
I was in Junior High School. As I was becoming a young woman, it was becoming more and more painful to be part of the social rejects. I wanted to socialize with people, but I was never invited to the parties. At school all week long, the popular group
would talk about who would be invited to the parties and who would not.
The class pecking order really manifested itself during lunch time at the school cafeteria. The popular girls and the popular
boys had their tables on opposite side of the dinning hall. If you were not a member of the popular group, you would not dare sit at their table. The semi-popular people, the girls who wanted to be part of the popular girls but who didn't quite make it, had there
own table. And then there where tables for the rest of the students,
I would lock myself in my bedroom and for hours stare at the walls feeling how lonely and isolated I was as l long to be invited to
one of their parties. I never realized just how unpopular i was.
oh well never mind. i am sure there is someone out there worse off than me.
I DON'T CARE.
reading other people notes here.
has made me relise hoe sick the real world is.
GOODBYE CREUL WORLD. I AM GOING TO KILL MY SELF NOW.
GOD I HATE THIS LIFE.
|07 Jul 2005||ok this is a horrible website , everybody has one chance at life we can do amazzing things please do not do any of these sick twisted things kids hav everything to live for|
|06 Jul 2005||P||CJ if you are still alive belive me I understand your pain. Why dont you email me:
|06 Jul 2005||Andyy||Take a doll and try eat the whole head!..><|
|05 Jul 2005||THE SINGING BARBARIAN FROM THE SAVAGE NORTH||WO0O0 O0O0O 0OO0 O0O0 O0O0O0O 0O0 O0O0O0O0O0 O0O 0O0O0 O0O0O!!!!
IT IS I MOTHER FUCKER! THE SINGING BARBARIAN FROM THE SAVAGE NORTHE!!! I HAVE THE BLOOD OF METAL IN MY VEINS!!! I HAVE HELD CONGRESS WITH THE GODS THEN I FUCKED THEM!! I HAVE SLAYED ABOUT EVERY THING AT LEAST TWICE!! I HAVE THE STRENGTH OF 1000 HETEROSEXUAL MEN WITHIN MY RIGHT ARM. AND GUESS WHAT HUMANS!?
I DONT PLAY FAIR!!!
|05 Jul 2005||Marie||c peu étre hor sujet mé moi je voulé savoir existe til dé suicide non violent ou on agonise pa koi?|
|05 Jul 2005||xixa||se pendre|
|05 Jul 2005||me||second:
to start with all the people who have bullied me are not perfect them selfs.
someone said oh you make things worse for your self
how can i.
once i snapped in class and broke out in tears, it was that bad for me.
i got blamed for that. i snapped at a person which i am sorry for,
i have sooo many issues.
when i was at school it all started.
becasue i was so god dame ugly (don't laugh)
also i was werid looking for a couple of years.
I swear i am not that bad looking now but i know i have got alittle bit better looking but i still get called ugly.
plus at school when i was 16 a teacher called social services on are familylike there was something wrong with me,
more on that but i won't say.
why is all this a problem you might be asking.
i am so tired all the time.
11-14 i guess was my ugly years.
i got told day in and dayout i was ugly.
I am so destressed about my past becasue i got badly bullied which left me fighting and you know what happends when people fight i don't want to talk about that.
I also suffered with depression too. which was not a very good experience for me,
i can't find a job becasue people in town know my past and don't want to employ me.
The people who i grew up with are still hanging around being nosey in my life.
I talk to my self more and more.
i have no friends where i live i feel scared to go out. when i do go out i am scared i live with parents. i suffer with B.D.D and social phobia now.
i have no friends where i live. None at all.
I don't know what to do.
no one likes me where i live, i am not very good looking either i don't know what to do.
the people know my past gossip and stuff for all the things good and bad have gone on in my life.
i also need a job as i need the money.
i have done a funrasier and had my money stolen from my school bag yes i grew up alone i am now underdeveloped and i am scared and alone.
but i live with parents i go out with them so i am ok at them moment.
please reply back i need advice.
i was a self harmer and other things have happened i don't want to talk about.
I keep thinking about my past.
i feel like a caged animal where i live. i got bullied and i am scared to go out alone now.
people just pick on me becasue i am scared to talk to anyone
what shall i do.
i can't move right now becasue i have no money or job.
I need advice please.
is there any home working jobs for me from the u.k i can try for a little while.
i also have O.C.D and a bad temper now.
i am always on the computer in all my spare time, becasue i have no friend where i live, i am sad i know.
People at school and in my village when i used to talk to them i got told that i was ugly and to gwt lost and look's which up sets me today.
I cry all the time swear and shout.
I am scared to go places even the doctor.
i went before and she gave me some perscroiption.
i never went back i am too scared of wait rooms don't laugh to go alone.
my parents want me out the house.
i can't do nothing right i am a so stupid and i am werid and so on.
I dont go out unless i need to some days i bath twice a day.
i am soo werid lucky i go shopping so i can get bits i want to stock up when i dont need all those bit's.
i have enough stuff to start a shop right now i have not been out in 3 weeks as i don't need too.
i plan to go out this week for a ride first time in 3 weeks,
I am scared of my neighbours i feel threatened by them
i got intimadated at school laughed at for thing's
the scaredness has never left me,
I am so destressed.
i told on people at school and they carryed on bullying me once ran past the toliets at me ging ehhhh gross.
Now i have no friends in the village.
one boy wanted to go out with me only to use me for one thing to wind me up.
i am just a joke.
I am just scared,
full of fear.
people have been talking about me behind my back and gossiping around the village about my past and so on.
thank you for your time
ps: there is just soooo much to write down but i can't pout it all down.
I hopeing to move away from here where no one knows my past.
Or will bully me for me being me.
any advice please.
|05 Jul 2005||chrysa||eat all your pokemon action figures until you cant breath...then try really hard to pronounce pica-pica-chu with your mouth still stuffed.|
|04 Jul 2005||jesus loves us||The reason your being bullied is
simply because Jesus loves you but
because Jesus loves you, the devil hates
you and he tries to make your life
a living hell.
|04 Jul 2005||love||Love is the basis of forgiveness.
So to really love you, I have to frst love u.
And to really love u, I have to first love myself.
And to love myself, I have to love myself unconditionally by loving meas every word and its opposite.
How do i do that?
Well, I have to teach myself to love myself.
How do I do that?
Well, I say the words:
I love myslef as Oliver and so love oliver as myself.
I love myselfas kym and so love kim as myself.
I love myself as a victor and as a victim so that I cam love Kym as a victor over me when I am her victim, and love her as my victim when i am a victor over her.
I love myself as right and wrong so I ca love K when she is right and when she is wrong.
I lvoe myself as etc and as etc so i can love kym as etc and etc.
All that means that
the first psychological victimisation of myself or self-victimisation,
the first abuse of myslef or self-abuse
the first defeat of myself or self-defeat is to hate myself as any word!
|04 Jul 2005||Revenge||Revenge would be sweet, but pointless, cos whilst it would give you immediate satisfaction, it would not heal your wounds.|
|04 Jul 2005||was bullied, mostly verbally, from between the ages of 11 and 16, I was forced to leave school early (aged about 15 1/2) because of this and forsake my education which was going nowhere anyway due to constant disruptions from these "ignorant sadistic scum". That's right 12 years later and I haven't forgiven or forgotten this and I expect I'll carry this "baggage of hate" around with me for as long as I live, When I was around 17 and 18 I used to plot killing these people but I'm not that type of person to actually carry something like that out. A few years back I registered with friends reunited (in my case enemies reunited) and was depressed to see my tormentors posting things like:-
"I'm now with xxx the love of my life and our little boy xxx living in xxx and I work as a <really good job> hope to get into contact with all my good friends" etc.
I can only advise people in my position: Do not register with this site! why register? what do you want to know?!
I know these success stories can be a load of bull but it still makes me angry to read it. And I just think that knowing my luck they're true. As you've guessed I don't wish these people well in their lives.
I know what it is to be bullied and I sympathise with others that experience the same. All I can say is don't stand for it, retaliate and don't let them destroy your life. Don't do what I did and let everyone cr@p all over you, it's not worth it. Changing school/college/workplace is better if you really don't want to face the problem.
My bullying was mostly verbal and during my schooldays, I was called "gay" (which was false) and isolated from other people. I was tormented and picked on constantly, my mother and my family were insulted and so was I. I cried but they had no pity for me. It continued until I could take no more. I'd fake illness in order to avoid school and in the end I used to bunk off because my parents, not understanding the situation, forced me to go.
I'd hate for anyone else to go through what I went through, it has affected my entire life and I know I can never live like a normal person again... god I have tried.
If anyone wants to contact me about this feel free I am a good listener and I will try to help you out of this seemingly inescapable situation, through conversation, if I am able. Post and ask for my email address if you need help. If you are being bullied out there take heart you're not alone and people can advise you and help you
|04 Jul 2005||Oh god help me||I had depression in my teeange years and it turned me out for the worse,
Oh god help me